How Counselling Can Help Save A Relationship
Most of you think that you only need counseling when things get really bad. However, a study in Australia has shown that the couples who seek relationship counseling sooner rather than later are more likely to feel the benefits. Often people may worry that going to a counsellor means they are in big trouble, or that it’s the beginning of the end. But that’s not true.
Let us discuss the benefits of how counselling can help save a relationship.
A lot of couples find difficulty in communicating their needs clearly to one another. Hey, they didn’t write the book “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” for nothing right? Men and women express themselves differently. When we have been in a relationship or marriage for a long time, especially with such issues, it can feel like you are running on a hamster wheel with no end and no way out. Sometimes talking to someone with no connection to yourself or your partner may help you to gain perspective. The counsellor will be able to help you by not being judgmental and seeing your situation from a third person perspective.
There can be many different concerns or reasons that may bring you to couples counseling, ranging from a lack of communication right through to a betrayal or affair. Some common issues that can be explored through couples counseling include: lack of trust, betrayal or affair, different goals and values, controlling behavior, lack of communication, jealousy etc.
Once communication has deteriorated, often it is hard to get it going back in the right direction. Negative communication can include anything that leaves one partner feeling depressed, insecure, disregarded, or wanting to withdraw from the conversation. This can also include the tone of the conversation. It is important to remember that it’s not always what you say, but how you say it. In any case, if any of the partners betrayed or maintain an extra affair, there is no magic formula for recovering from it. The marriage may be salvaged, only if both individuals are committed to the therapy process and are being honest.
Whatever the concern is, speaking to a professional is often an incredibly helpful step forward. A willingness to be flexible and self-reflective can go a long way. People who were able to look at things from their partners’ points of view and reconsider their own actions and behavior were more likely to arrive at the subtle shifts in attitude that can lead to easy life.
After few sessions, you should be able to tell if the therapy is working. To put it simple, you and your partner should feel you’re communicating with each other in a more positive and effective manner.
A good counselling will offer you the space to grow and decide what you would like the future to hold for both of you.